We support all wounded by child abuse, sex abuse, rape, domestic violence, clergy abuse, and emotional abuse. When the wounded are listened to as long as needed, as often as needed, we begin to heal, and we begin to be able to support others on the journey to healing.
It can be lonely being a little not-for-profit. Not even big not-for-profits gain all the media attention they would like to have to support their mission, but being a little not-for-profit, I have to work even harder for recognition. I submitted what I considered an important Op-Ed piece to The Oregonian. I can't say that I was overly surprised that they did not publish it. So I am sending the same piece to another weekly paper that can be cheeky and naughty. Since they are cheeky and naughty, I wrote a slightly cheeky cover letter which I am sharing here along with a longer version of the Op-Ed.
I submitted my Op-Ed piece,Will We Let Domestic Violence Services Disappear?, attached below to TheOregonian a few weeks ago as they carry one or two Op-Ed pieces by members of the general public in their online edition every day. The piece highlights the problems faced in Southern Josephine County by domestic violence victims and advocates caused by the delay in the renewal of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), a decline in government and foundation financial support for domestic violence advocacy and tax revenues too low to support adequate law enforcement. Basically when you cut funding for domestic violence agencies and for law enforcement you end up with disappearing domestic violence services and people reporting assaults to 911 facing their perpetrators alone. Each day of the last few weeks I scanned the online edition of The Oregonian to see if they printed my Op-Ed. They printed a piece by a young Republican about how the Equal Rights Amendment provided positive opportunities for Republicans. They printed a piece about Clackamas County being an oasis of opportunity and they printed a piece about egg production standards, but they did not print my article. While I agree producing eggs by placing hens in tiny cages abuses them, and while I personally only eat eggs produced by cage free hens, I also feel that the abuse of women, children and small numbers of adult men is even more important than the abuse of chickens.
Maybe the editorial staff of The Oregonian was too concerned about what their bosses would think to print my Op-Ed. I read somewhere that a new libertarian editor or publisher took over The Oregonian, and my Op-Ed piece, which points out that tax dollars paid to the government and spent by the government can save lives or at least save women from being beaten and raped by their ex-husbands, doesn’t fit with the Libertarian message of lower taxes and less government is better than higher taxes and more government services.
Maybe my not-for-profit is too small to pay attention to.
Maybe I am not good enough of a writer, or maybe my piece lacked enough precise information about exactly what has happened since President Obama signed the latest revision of VAWA into law on March 7. Or maybe The Oregonian receives so many Op-Ed submissions that they have a really hard time choosing which ones to print.
Being a little disappointed about my piece not being published, I went to Grand Central Bakery to drown my sorrows my way -- by sipping a cappuccino and chewing on a chocolate croissant. I like to read and eat at the same time, so I picked up The Portland Mercury. I feel about thirty years too old for The Portland Mercury articles on the music scene. I stopped listening to the radio when Boy George was popular. Despite my liberal politics, I live my personal life in a conservative fashion. I don’t drink or go out to bars or other entertainment venues. I am a little too poor to go to movies. Drinking cappuccino and eating croissants at Grand Central Bakery is about as wild as I get. And while I appreciate the cheeky, ironic tone of The Portland Mercury, it is not my writing style. I teach Compassionate Listening to help supporters know how to help survivors of abuse heal. Humor is important to healing but needs to be gentle when we work with deeply wounded people until or unless we understand what kind of humor they feel safe with.
However, that day I sat in Grand Central Bakery reading The Portland Mercury, I saw an article about snappy comebacks to sexually harassing comments women hear from men on the streets. These comments are a form of domestic violence. As I read the article, I wondered if you all might take my Op-Ed piece.
At the very least read it and consider investigating what is going on in Josephine County and write your own article. We, in Portland, are not immune to the problems faced by women and domestic violence services in Josephine County. The overall trend in our country is towards lower taxes and less government support for those in need. Moreover, unless these lower taxes and spending improve the economy, foundations will have less money to support not-for-profits while more people will be in need of their services.
You can call Chris Mallette at 541.592.2515 to find out about domestic violence in Josephine County and about the Illinois Valley Safe House Alliance that she directs. She also asks that everyone take note of the Facebook Page of the Illinois Valley Safe House Alliance at https://www.facebook.com/ivsha?fref=ts.
Virginia Jones, cofounder Compassionate Gathering/ Walk Across Oregon to End Abuse and Heal the Wounds
Virginia Jones, cofounder Compassionate Gathering/ Walk Across Oregon to End Abuse and Heal the Wounds
Don’t Take Domestic Violence Services For Granted --
They Might Disappear
Last summer a woman in the Illinois Valley in southern Josephine County called 911 and asked for help while her felon ex boyfriend was trying to break down her door (http://www.npr.org/2013/05/21/185839248/loss-of-timber-payments-cuts-deep-in-oregon). There were no sheriff’s deputies available to help her. She was transferred to the state police who were also unable to send anyone to her house. The ex-boyfriend eventually broke into the house and beat and raped the woman.
I remember first hearing about domestic violence when I was in college in the 1970s. A battered women’s shelter opened up in the college town where I attended school. Since I have not needed shelter and support to get away from a man bent on harming me or my children, I took these shelters and services for granted until very recently. Changes in society imperil existing protection for women and their children and small numbers of men. Much of the progress we have made is being rolled back -- by tax and spending cuts, by a poor economy and by a lack of political and community will.
I have been Walking Across Oregon, through towns and on scenic trails, since 2008 to raise awareness about various forms of abuse and have met domestic violence advocates along the way. I’ve listened to them describe the support they provide to victims as well as the challenges they face. Many shelters for battered women sprang up in the 1960s and 70s, but they did not receive stable funding until former Senator Joe Biden shepherded the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) into existence in 1994. VAWA also supported the funding of Victims’ Assistants, which are the only source of local support for survivors of rape and domestic violence in some rural Oregon counties. VAWA succeeded. Between 1993 to 2010, the rate of intimate partner violence declined 67%, and the rate of intimate partner homicides of women decreased 35% and that of men decreased 46% ( http://www.whitehouse.gov/sites/default/files/docs/vawa_factsheet.pdf). VAWA was renewed in 2000 and 2005, but support for VAWA faltered in 2010 when Democrats added some new protections for gays and lesbians, Native American women and illegal immigrants. Many Republicans objected to these provisions and the Act lay dormant until February 2013, when it was finally renewed. There were consequences to the political infighting over VAWA. I learned from advocates I visited on the Walk Across Oregon that they had experienced a 50% cut in funding and staffing between 2009 and 2012. The federal budget sequester threatens more still more funding cuts. Declines in foundation funding due to the poor economy have caused even more cuts. And it gets worse. In Oregon counties that have seen a decline in federal timber sales and support, Curry and Josephine Counties in particular, there have been dramatic cuts in police and sheriff’s departments as the counties residents have resisted tax increases to make up for lost federal funds. These cuts in law enforcement created the situation in Josephine County where a victims had to face her felon ex-boyfriend alone, without police support.
The consequences of all these cuts is that we are losing domestic violence services. Just this last week, I spoke with Chris Mallette, the Executive Director of the Illinois Valley Safe House Alliance in Cave Junction, Oregon. She told me that the Alliance had experienced an 80% decline in funding due to declines in grants from foundations. They are struggling to stay open with volunteers and two part time employees.
Middle Class and Upper Class women get beaten and harassed and murdered too, but they have more resources for support. Domestic violence services help poor women with few resources.
It is important to note that small numbers of men also seek help from domestic violence services. However, many of these men find their situation so embarrassing that they are even more reluctant than women to come forward and seek help.
No one -- neither adult nor child, nor male or female, nor rich or poor -- should have to face rape and abuse alone. What can we the rest of us do to end domestic violence, sexual assault and child abuse and support the survivors so they can heal?
To join a Walk to raise awareness about abuse and domestic violence or to support survivors or work on your own healing, contact Virginia Jones cofounder of Compassionate Gathering/Walk Across Oregon at 503-866-6163 or firstname.lastname@example.org.
To here more about what is going on in Josephine County with survivors of domestic violence, contact Chris Mallette at ___________.
Last summer I sat down in the office of the Illinois Valley Safe House Alliance in Cave Junction, Oregon, to speak with Chris Mallette, the Executive Director, about how budget cuts were affecting Domestic Violence cases in her area.
Chris said, “Survivors don’t report Domestic Violence because there are too few sheriff’s deputies. The response time is too slow.”
The last few years have seen significant cuts in government and foundation funding for Domestic Violence services as poor economic conditions have reduced resources and politicians have emphasized tax cuts and spending cuts, believing that these actions will revive the economy. Domestic Violence services across the state have halved their staffs as they struggle to stay open. Some counties, such as Josephine County where the Illinois Valley is located, have experienced major cutbacks in their law enforcement due to declining support from timber revenue the last 25 years as well as federal support payments that were supposed to ease the counties’ transitions to economies not based on logging have been eliminated. Persuading voters to raise taxes to pay for law enforcement and other services in counties where strong anti government sentiment prevails along with unemployment rates greater than 10 percent has proved challenging. Both Josephine and Curry County voters recently defeated tax increases.
Does Domestic Violence go away if we fund neither Domestic Violence services nor law enforcement?
Of course not.
What is to be done? But first, what has been happening in Oregon?
I have been walking across Oregon since 2008, to raise awareness about abuse. In 2008, I merely assisted another woman, June, who was both a Domestic Violence victim and the mother of two child sex abuse survivors. We walked that year with the hopes of ending the statute of limitations on criminal prosecution of Child Sex Abuse offenders. She did not know that her husband was sexually abusing her children when she left him when they were preteens. She left him because she endured years of low key physical violence and lots of emotional violence from him. After she left him, her ex-husband kept their children away from her, telling the girls that if they went to live with their mother, they would never see their paternal grandparents again. Finally, when they were older teenagers, they realized their father was lying to them about their mother, and they went to live with her. However many years passed before they came to terms with the abuse they suffered as children. When they finally understood the harm their father caused them, they were too old to press criminal charges against him and too afraid of him to file a civil lawsuit.
June’s case illustrates the relationship between Domestic Violence and Child Abuse. The relationship is so close that police officers are required to investigate for Child Abuse if they are called to the scene of a Domestic Violence incident.
These abuses have probably been with us forever. Recently archaeologists in Egypt found the body of a child they thought was a victim of Child Abuse during the Roman occupation of Egypt nearly 2,000 years ago ( http://www.livescience.com/34738-egypt-cemetery-reveals-child-abuse.html ). The child’s body was riddled with multiple fractured bones in various stages of healing and an unhealed broken collar bone that probably caused the death of the child. Healed fractures are rare among the skeletal, archaeological remains of children. This child’s skeleton also revealed evidence of nutritional stress. In addition, archaeologists describe the child as having completely broken middle forearm bones on both arms -- injuries that require significant force.
In western culture, both women and children have long been considered the property of men. There were laws and rules against severe mistreatment but no systematic program of enforcement of these rules. Protections from violence remained scant for millennia. Indeed the American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children was not formed until 1874 -- 8 years after the formation of The American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals. Awareness about Child Abuse and Domestic Violence did not increase dramatically until the 1960s and 1970s, when many battered women’s shelters were founded and Take Back the Night Marches protesting sexual violence against women were initiated.
One of the pioneers of the Domestic Violence movement, Louise Bauschard, now lives in Beaverton, Oregon. She earned a Master’s Degree in Social Work in St. Louis, Missouri, in 1976, and set up a women’s resource center to empower women. However, so many calls came in to the center reporting Domestic Violence and childhood experiences of sex abuse, that Louise soon became a Domestic Violence advocate, and her center became the first Domestic Violence services in Missouri. She moved to Oregon in 1994, and later founded the not-for-profit, Voices Set Free, in Washington County, to provide support services for survivors and to help survivors share their stories.
The Domestic Violence movement experienced a great leap forward in 1994, when then Senator Joe Biden shepherded the passage of the Violence Against Women Act also known as VAWA. VAWA provided government grants for Domestic Violence services and county victim's assistants among other programs.
In the meantime, Domestic Violence services I visited on the Walk Across Oregon in 2009 and 2010 saw fifty percent budget and staffing cuts in 2011 and 2012. Of the five not-for-profits I visited in 2012, only the Illinois Valley Safe House Alliance in Cave Junction had not seen a significant funding cuts.
Chris Mallette, the Executive Director, explained, “We are not the county seat; we’ve never had those resources. We’ve always had to find more creative ways to raise money.”
During the Walk Across Oregon in 2012, I interviewed the Executive Directors and other officers of several of the Domestic Violence services I visited around Oregon to find out what services they were providing, what problems they were meeting with and what messages they had for politicians and members of the community.
These are those interviews:
Ontario, Oregon -- Project Dove -- Malheur County -- Susan Johnson
Project Dove, Fiscal Coordinator
Q: How did your organization begin.
A: In 1981, Judge Sullivan had an employee she was concerned about who was a victim of Domestic Violence, and she founded Project Dove.
Q: What kinds of services do you offer?
A: We offer an emergency Domestic Violence shelter for women and children, classes for women and children, classes on recognizing domestic violence, a 24 hour crisis line, and Kids Safe Exchange, but budget cuts eliminated supervised visitation of children for divorced parents. We also offer help filing restraining orders, transportation to court in the county seat -- Vale, help with housing and food stamps, and for ten years we have raised money selling resale items at the Unique Boutique.
Q: What is the population you serve?
A: Roughly 50% white and 50% Hispanic, but also Native Americans and small numbers of Asians. Most clients are lower income. Of the homeless people in Malheur County, roughly 50%, are victims of domestic violence.
Q: What kind of impact have you had on domestic violence, child abuse and teen dating violence in your area?
A: We have provided support that wouldn’t be there otherwise. We support children through classes.
Q: What problems are you facing right now?
A: We have no money, very few grants are available. We have laid off 50% of our staff since 2010. We are looking for volunteers to try to cover our programs.
Q: What will happen to you if VAWA is not reenacted or if the funds that it provides are reduced?
A: We will have no resources at all.
Q: What message would you like to convey to the community?
A: Domestic Violence affects economic growth. People run the other way when they hear about Domestic Violence. They don’t consider what happens to the children. Children exposed to Domestic Violence often suffer so many emotional problems they become nonproductive adults.
Q: What message would you like to convey to society? To politicians?
A: You don’t want me to tell you. Society wants people to keep it to themselves.
Sunset Over Burns, Oregon, During Range Fire, 2012
Burns, Oregon -- Harney Helping Organization for Personal Emergencies -- Harney County -- Teresa Cowing, Executive Director
Q: What problems are you facing right now?
A: We went from a four person office to a two person office. We really need those two people that we lost. We went to a training in Sunriver, Oregon. We met Domestic Violence advocates from other parts of the state. Portland area Domestic Violence services have an advocate for every variation of Domestic Violence service needs. In our office the two of us have to do everything.
Q: What would happen to you if the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) is not re-enacted or if the funds it provides are reduced?
A: We could maintain for a while, but we might be reduced to a one person office.
Q: What message would you like to convey to the community?
A: We’re here. We need all the support we can get. We need the support of the community to stay here. Shelter is needed for victims of Domestic Violence and their children. We recently received four calls from the national hotline for Domestic Violence. Other shelters elsewhere were full, and they needed a place to house survivors. We are out of the way and hard (for perpetrators) to find, and we have good support from our local law enforcement officers who patrol around here (our shelter) regularly. So we are a good place for domestic violence victims from out of state to come and be safe. An out of state woman came here recently and her husband stalked her to here, but we got really good support from local law enforcement officers. Burns is a small town where everybody knows everybody.
Q: What message would you like to convey to the politicians?
A: We need funding to keep us here and keep us going.
Q: When did your organization begin?
A: March 1984.
Q: What kind of services do you offer?
A: Domestic violence and sexual assault advocacy, shelter with two larger rooms for families and four smaller rooms for individuals, support groups, and a food pantry. A volunteer stays at the shelter two nights a week, and we receive referrals from the national hotline (http://www.thehotline.org, phone 1-800-799-SAFE).
Q: Can you tell me a bit about the population you serve?
A: The population of Harney County is 4,000 people. We receive referrals from other areas when their shelters are full. Half of our clients are from Oregon, and half are from out of state. Our clients are lower income.
Q: What kind of impact have you been able to have on child abuse/Domestic Violence, teen dating violence etc. in your area?
A: We are getting our name and our mission out there. We are going to more community meetings. We are working with the Department of Human Services ten hours a week. More cases are being reported.
Klamath Falls, Oregon -- Klamath County Crisis Center/Marta’s House -- Klamath County, Oregon -- interview with Carolyn Acevedo
Q: What will happen to you if the Violence Against Women Act is not reenacted or if the funds it provides are dramatically reduced?
A: We will experience extreme budget cuts and staff reductions. Both federal funding and foundation funding are down right now. We have experienced cuts to the food bank. We are only able to give out staples such as rice and beans right now.
We want to offer a support group for Sexual Assault victims. They feel ashamed and guilty, as though everything is their fault. The victims wonders if other people know. It takes so much strength to walk through the door to seek help.
We also want to offer pick up and drop off services for parents in high conflict divorce relationships. We currently staff this with volunteers. We need more funding.
Safety and safety planning are always our priority. We meet the survivors where they are.
In addition to these interviews, one Executive Director of a Domestic Violence service did not want to be identified for the sake of the client told me about.
She said, “It happens to men too. I’ve had male rape victims call me and ask for help, but they are so filled with shame and guilt that they are not able to come in to our offices for our services.”
Volunteer walker and Klamath Lake Cares joins me in Klamath Falls Walk Across Oregon, 2012
What We, Compassionate Gathering and Voices Set Free, are Doing to Help
We are reaching out to the community to raise awareness, provide healing for survivors and encourage support for Domestic Violence, Sexual Assault and Child Abuse survivors. I am walking with Louise Bauschard and volunteers from Voices Set Free through Hillsboro, Oregon, on July 13, starting at 9:30 AM at the offices of Voices Set Free at 254 North First Avenue. We will first enjoy the Farmer’s Market in downtown Hillsboro. Then some intrepid souls will walk with me the four miles from downtown Hillsboro to NE 53rd Avenue Park at 300 NE 53rd Avenue in Hillsboro, for a picnic. Hopefully, a few people will also join me for a nature walk in the Noble Woods Park across Baseline Road from NE 53rd Avenue Community Park. During these walks, we will give out awareness ribbons for Child Abuse, Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, buttons proclaiming our goals, “End Abuse, Heal the Wounds” and “Voices Set Free,” and a limited number of T-shirts.