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Wednesday, September 30, 2015
Observing Domestic Month: Virginia’s Resources for Help and Healing From Abuse -- Domestic Violence Month
Please note that I deactivated links for organizations that I do not have specific permission for links, but you can still cut and paste addresses.
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence Email: firstname.lastname@example.orgHotlines:1.800.799.SAFE (7233) and 1.800.787.3224 (TTY) Website: http://www.ncadv.org
domesticshelters.org https://www.domesticshelters.orgFind a shelter anywhere in the country and access dozens, hundreds of articles on survivors stories and all aspects of coping with domestic violence.
Some local Portland area resources for help for coping with domestic violence (all found on domesticshelters.org):
The Gateway Center for Domestic Violence Services -- business phone: 503-988-6400 website: https://www.portlandoregon.gov/gatewaycenter/
Portland Women's Crisis Line -- hotline: 503-235-5333 website: http://pwcl.org
VOA Home Free -- hotline: 503-771-5503 website: http://www.voaor.org/children-and-family
Bradley Angle House -- hotline: 503-281-2442 website: http://bradleyangle.org
Raphael House of Portland -- hotline: 503-222-6222 website: http://raphaelhouse.com
Russian Oregon Social Services --hotline: 503-777-3437 website: http://www.emoregon.org/ross.php
Native American Youth and Family Center Healing Circle -- business phone: 503-288-8177
Immigrant & Refugee Community -- business phone: 503-234-1541 website: http://www.irco.org
Sexual Assault Resource Center -- hotline: 503-640-5311 website: http://sarcoregon.org
Los Ninos Cuentan -- hotline: 503-933-7840 website: http://losninoscuentan.org
South Asian Women's Empowerment & Resource Alliance -- hotline: 503-778-7386
Stories about survivors of abuse and their supporters:
The Story of a Supporter of a Survivor: Preston McMurry met and married, Donna Theresa, the love of his life and then puzzled over her struggles with intimacy and her tendency to leave him without explanation The their marriage counselor said only one thing could cause such issues -- severe child physical, emotional and sexual abuse. The problem was that Donna Theresa did not remember being abused. Donna and Pres made a trip to her home town in Italy to find the truth. They found it, but when they returned to the United States Donna was so profoundly disturbed by her past that she left Pres for a final time. Pres struggled with deep grief and founded Theresa’s Fund to provide financial support and fund raising advice to non-profits combatting family violence. Then, one day after a seven year silence from Donna Theresa, Pres received the phone call of his life....
Virginia’s Story of Surviving and Healing From Child Sex Abuse. I was also raped on a date at age 22, but I am not able to share that story yet. In addition, I am a survivor of severe, ongoing, emotional domestic violence. I am not yet able to share more than bits and pieces of that story either.
Into the Abyss (http://compassionategathering.blogspot.com/2014/11/into-abyss.html) is my story of struggling with depression after the end of a relationship. Many survivors of child sex abuse struggle with feeling abandoned and unwanted, feelings that are magnified when relationships end. I wish I knew that 40 years ago. I would have understood better the deep depressions I suffered after the end of every significant romantic relationship I experienced.
As a child I had no support from my parents who were struggling with their own issues. I am old enough that society was much less aware of the harmed caused by abuse when I was a child than it is today. I struggled with depression and other issues. I found a measure of healing walking in nature Please note that to truly heal, I still needed insight and relationship and communication skills. To learn these I needed individual therapy, books on the subject of abuse, and classes in Non-Violent Communication and Compassionate Listening. However, walking in nature or in parks in the city both calmed my anxiety and anger and lifted me up when I was sad. Sometimes nature also helped me have better insight about my life.